...... If you ask
me, without even thinking much i will say “NO ! Love is not enough and
there is a lot needed to create a lovely relationship". To love is
not for a one time which later works on an auto mode, as we generally see in movies. It is something to be created on an everyday basis.
This is one
of the common myths that I have seen amongst young couples. They see life in the glares
of chemical reaction happening brain which stay for short time in reality. People enter in a relationship thinking that everything will be fine 100% & they will be able to take care of
everything on their own. It is a sad truth that it does not happen as they think.
Sometimes (which
are rare times) couples do stand by each other, facing everything together and
despite all the odds they are able to create a happy and loving relationship -
Off course ! they are the Few Lucky Ones. But most of the times this is
not the story. People’s myths and illusions break with harsh and actual realities
of life. And in this process of learning, they have to go through a lot of
pain. Sometimes they don’t even learn with their experience and due to unawareness they keep on doing things which hamper their relationship or marriage.
Living
together, needs a lot of willingness & ample desire to be with the other person.
Where you just give, share and genuinely nurture without thinking and calculating about what you get in return. But this has to be done by both of them. For me, relationships are wholly a connection of your soul with the other's, where
people sincerely do things for each other wholeheartedly.
Being
together first requires an understanding with your inner being and then with your
partner. You become ready from within to accommodate your partner and
accept just the way you accept your own self which can be difficult
at times and become a tough job to do. But it is important !.
In a healthy relationship a couple has to be interdependent & supportive of each other. With the utmost honesty, integrity and commitment you help your partner in every sphere of life, considering his/her growth.
In a healthy relationship a couple has to be interdependent & supportive of each other. With the utmost honesty, integrity and commitment you help your partner in every sphere of life, considering his/her growth.
If a couple doesn't know how to take
care of these things it can create big tussles in the relationship. A Couple needs to understand the facts and realities and needs to be aware of ways to deal with difficult
situations before it gets worse. Nobody logically teaches us about these things and on top of it we all have our own ideas which we need to check and modify sometimes.
And once
you do these things in your relationship, a Magic happens. A magic where you feel loved, appreciated and grown.
This kind
of love, seems very unrealistic for few (the so called pragmatic people). For them, it
sounds crazy and philosophical. But it is neither unrealistic nor philosophical. It is a reality which all of us need to learn, if we want healthy, happy and fulfilling relationships.
It is
important to take help from a professional - a Relationship expert, who can guide
you, give you a different/open approach and skills to create a happy and loving
relationship.
Ultimately isn't this what
we all are looking for??
Ultimately isn't this what
we all are looking for??
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